Creating Change - Where do I start?

How often in the quiet hours of the night do you find yourself thinking?  Do you think about releasing those last 10 pounds, making more money or finding the soul mate of your dreams?  Does the constant thinking about all the “what if’s” and “why can’t I” over and over again, leave you feeling sad or deflated? 

It’s been said many times before that what we think about most or what we focus on creates our reality.  So the simple solution would be change your thoughts and you change your reality.  It sounds simple enough, doesn’t it?  Simple yet, so many are still yearning and feeling emotions of failure.

Attracting what you really want and achieving results requires a plan and what I call the secret sauce.  It’s the missing ingredient that most folks are not aware of or fail to use.  The secret sauce is the glue that provides the process and produces your desired outcome.  What is the secret sauce, that missing ingredient?  All learning, all behavior and all change MUST be done at the Unconscious Level.

The thoughts that swirl around in our minds happen at the Conscious Level.  The Conscious Level is the hub of all the conversations that we ping pong with ourselves.  Creating change or producing results at this level is extremely difficult. 

Change always happens at the Unconscious Level.  Our unconscious mind is our true essence, it’s where we create, take action and produce results.  This is the secret sauce or the missing ingredient!  

Begin Creating Your Journey to Success

Have you ever wondered why some individuals are more successful when it comes to achieving in all areas of their life?  Why do certain people always seem to attract: the right investments, business, career, superior relationships with colleagues and friends, an excellent spouse and even a superior connection with their children?  What is their recipe for success or their secret to achieving it all?

  

Does your journey have a starting point?

Each magnificent being has an inherent need to grow emotionally, spiritually and mentally so they can reap all they yearn for.  I have often spoken about the little voice in our conscious mind called “self chatter”.   Self chatter tells you that you can’t, it’s not possible, to stay put and take the safe road.  When we take the safe road and cut ourselves off from creating, evolving and learning we are telling ourselves that we are not worthy of success. 

As we progress along our journey on this planet, we might ponder and reflect on our past.  Self reflection leads us to the gift of receiving feedback; what we receive does not always come in the perfect package with a bow attached to it.  Self reflection is an excellent tool of looking at what we truly want, being able to shape, define and see a clear picture of it.  We are, where we are, right now at this exact moment; however, are you on your way to what you really want?

To begin the journey of success the starting point is to have a clear picture of where you are right now and also know where you want to be.  Is what you desire ecological in all areas of your life, in accordance with your values and beneficial not only for yourself, also including those who cross your path?  The universe reads vibrations and thoughts; when we are clear with our intention we can proceed forward and deliberately create our journey.

Is more required that just positive thinking?

It’s been widely noted around us that the key to achieving our own personal success is positive thinking.  This is true, yet there are so many who feel that they are thinking positively, using the universal laws and not achieving.  Positive thinking and the thoughts we channel are a key part of acquiring success and a great start, though, it’s like reading only 50% of the recipe.  It’s a known fact that baking is a science; all the ingredients need to be added in the correct order, along with the precise measurements to bake the perfect cake.  If we were to leave out a key ingredient or alter even a small amount of baking powder, salt, sugar etc., the outcome of the cake would be affected or even inedible.

Which ingredients do you have to create the perfect journey of success? 

I often refer to the 4 quadrants of life:

• Emotional
• Mental
• Physical
• Spiritual

These 4 quadrants need to be:  balanced, working in harmony, in alignment within ourselves, so that we can clearly and deliberately create our path to success. 

Emotional & Mental

The emotional and mental part of the quadrant is the key to feeling positive states of: love, joy, peace, gratitude, kindness and compassion within our self and for others.  In order to achieve these positive states, it is essential to clear our own personal baggage of any past or present negative emotions.

Physical

Once we are living, breathing and existing in a higher state of emotional and mental well being, this goes hand in hand with our physical bodies working at an optimal level.  Our emotions are wired intricately within in us, how we feel determines our overall health, relationships with others and how we pursue everything we do.

Spiritual

The last part of the quadrant is spirituality; there are many definitions of what spirituality means, however, many people define spirituality as a profound connection between self and the power of the Universe.  Spirituality is the gateway to an innate understanding and connection to a higher level of wisdom.

   

When all 4 quadrants are balanced and working in harmony we are able to see and achieve the unimaginable.

What actions need to be in place, in order to achieve success?

Once we DECIDE to start our journey of success there may be many bumps along the road.  The journey may become: overwhelming, too tiresome, we might experience financial difficulty or obstacles with colleagues and family.  Our initial reaction might be fight or flight, to put blame on others, or create the belief that success is not within reach.  These obstacles may seem to be undefeatable, almost as if there is no way to accomplish what we truly want.

The obstacles we encounter along the way will present feelings of: pressure, fear, guilt, shame.  This is always a key factor of whether we move forward or away from what we want.  Will you allow your feelings of doubt and the strategy of flight to stop you dead in your tracks?  Your unconscious mind knows exactly what you need and want.  The Universe also understands what you want by your thoughts, words and actions.  The big question is “are your thoughts, words and actions, moving you forward step by step or away”? 

Moving forward step by step with deliberate intention is the way to achieve all we desire.  The feelings of doubt are the little seeds that are planted consciously, allowing our feelings to rule against any decisions we have purposely made.  Moving toward what we want no matter what we feel will give you success in every avenue of your life.  Just decide!

  

How do you define your journey?

  

As a mother, wife, sister, daughter, writer, homemaker, business owner, teacher, contractor, student and the list goes on… I wear many hats.  What I have come to understand is that each person has their own journey to create and nourish, which in turn creates legacy.  When we create legacy we empower not only ourselves and others, we also leave the tools for our children to create their own path to legacy.  Define your journey by embracing it, love it and let it flow within you.  

  

Go for it now. The future is promised to no one. Wayne Dyer

KRASNER HYPNOSIS CERTIFICATION WEEKEND

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Full attendance of all 2.5 days

Successful completion and return of take home exam.

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Training Dates

January 29-31, 2016

February 12-14, 2016

February  26-28, 2016

Hours

Friday Evening 6:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m.

Saturday 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.

Sunday 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.

How can you receive maximum value in just 2.5 days?

- This course is taught by Board Certified Trainers of Hypnosis
- Practical’s on site with supervision of Trainers

- Learn the highest level of Hypnotic Language

- Learn to use self Hypnosis

How can you benefit by this weekend? 

Professionals

Working in the field of therapy can benefit using this 

excellent tool with patients and clients.

Parents

Does your child experience anxiety, learning challenges or ADHD?  Hypnosis is a brilliant tool for your child to achieve success, be empowered and find their confidence.

Self Hypnosis

Anyone who has the desire to achieve their 

ultimate best can benefit by learning:

- Appropriate suggestions to the Unconscious Mind

- Align and achieve rapport with the Unconscious Mind

Training Fees 

This 2.5 day fast track course with Board Certification is $999 +HST

We are offering our very first course at 750 +HST.

Groups of 3 or more signing up on the same credit card $699 +HST

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How Important Are Your Emotions?

In the last few years there has been a massive amount of talk on the topic of: being positive, maintaining a positive attitude and attracting what you want through positive thoughts.  The key word I have repeatedly seen and heard is “positive”.  I have often asked myself what does that really mean and how I can achieve positivity? 

The conscious mind stimulates great self conversations, which I call “self chatter”.  We have all experienced self chatter; it’s that persistent argument that takes place in our minds, or continual focus on past negative events which have occurred, leading us into a negative state.  When we find ourselves continuously in a bad mood, or a down period, often this state wreaks havoc on our emotional, mental and physical well being.  When we find ourselves in emotional crisis it becomes increasingly difficult to achieve an overall positive, healthy, well balanced life.

How many of us are experiencing a conflict right now in our professional or personal relationships?  Looking back on the past how many times have we been part of a painful argument or disagreement?  As humans we tend to want to make everything right, or have the other person see our point of view.  That being said how many times do we go back and revisit these past events and try to win the argument again?  A little self reflection allows us to be cognizant of how many times we go back and think of these past experiences.  Do we process and run the past over and over again; daily, weekly, yearly or sometimes even many years later?

As human beings we are primarily wired with our sense of feeling, hearing and seeing.  Our emotions are tightly connected to our thoughts; in order to deliberately, with clear intention create all that we desire, we need to clean up our emotional state.  A clean up of emotions allows the opportunity to change the past by preserving the learning’s and release the emotions that are connected to it.  Imagine being able to remember past events without; anger, sadness, guilt, rage or any other negative emotion.  When alignment within all four quadrants of our life; emotional, physical, mental and spiritual work harmoniously together the ultimate is being achieved.  When harmony and balance are working at an optimal level within each of the four quadrants, rapport within yourself is achieved.

It has been proven that high levels of success can be achieved when rapport is established with clients, friends and family, yet we neglect to see the importance of rapport within.  Just visualize the possibility of how mind blowing it could be to work and live at our highest level of magnificence.  Imagine achieving, creating and making the best decisions due to your exceptional relationship with your Unconscious Mind.  In order to achieve this higher state of being, rapport is essential. We cannot achieve rapport while experiencing negative emotions or states that hinder us.

So the big question we can ask ourselves, “How do I eliminate, or release negative emotions from the past.”?  In my studies of NLP, I have been blessed to learn and also experience Time Line Therapy (TLT).  TLT is a fast effective therapy, allowing each individual to work directly with their Unconscious Mind.  This remarkable therapy has been created with the intention of specifically allowing each individual to review past events, preserve the learning’s and release the emotions.

I have often experienced clients initially struggle with; the release of emotions, or have difficulty verbalizing the learning’s associated with the past event.  On the other hand, when a client successfully releases the negative emotions weighing down heavily upon them, I have often been told that it is truly like a weight lifted off their shoulders.  TLT is effective, fast and provides the results needed to move you toward the journey you desire.  You can achieve freedom from negative emotions allowing you to clean your personal slate.

Each individual has the ability to decide their journey on this planet.  Is your journey one of inner peace, alignment and rapport?   A good relationship with your Unconscious Mind will lead you to deliberately creating all your desire with intention. 

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How Badly do You Want Change?

Often times I have heard myself say “I want to”, or I have often heard it from others.  What is it that we truly want to change?  What goes against our inner alignment, causes chaos within us, or keeps us stuck right where we are, just short of never being able to reach out and grab hold of what we want? 

How many times have we started a diet always on a Monday and often give up by Friday?  Or how about an exercise plan; we truly have good intentions and mid week are too tired to continue?  What about breaking habits?  I really want to quit smoking, or I want to drink less wine and more herbal tea, or I want to stop procrastinating?  The list of what we personally want to change is different for each individual, however, the common denominator is we all seek change.

Globally we are surrounded with so many mentors, who speak about love being the key factor to creating change in the world.  The bible, all religions, cultures worldwide and nationalities all speak of love; show love, teach love and be love.  As humans walking this planet we look at ourselves with judgment and treat ourselves without love.  Why is it we spend so much time emulating this to others and not ourselves?

And so, I ask the question when I hear I want to…  “How badly do you want change”?  Are you willing to go the distance, all the way to the finish line?  Are you willing to do whatever it takes, no matter how uncomfortable you may feel, so you can finally say “I have”?  When stated like this, our initial reaction might be fight or flight.  It may send off alarm bells within us, because change and transition are very difficult for most of us.  The logical, rational thought process is yes, this is what I need.  However, when we find ourselves in the midst of change, chatter and doubt occurs in our conscious mind. 

My daughter at the age of 4 once said to me “Mommy just kick the bad man out of your head”, I asked “who is the bad man?” Her response was “you know the bad man in your head, who tells you things to make you feel bad”.  I remember thinking; this 4 year old child is aware of conscious chatter and self talk that goes on in our minds, so why do we listen to it?  This chatter is not our friend and really our enemy.  Why do we give it so much attention, let it steer our journey so that we can’t just reach out, and grab hold of what we want?

If we have the resources in place to lead us on the journey of success, what is the root cause that prevents us from getting what we want? The root cause is often over looked, which is why many times we go on a diet, lose the weight and put it back on in a few months.  The initial following the diet, exercise plan or will power to change behaviour is the easy part.  Understanding why and how we do what we do, is a whole other entity.

Finding the root cause of how and why we do what we do, leads us to acquiring true change.  As we breakthrough each barrier we also come into perfect alignment or rapport with our unconscious mind.  The term “Breakthrough” is really how it is stated, breaking through the barriers, no matter how uncomfortable or difficult.  Once we come to the conclusion that we really want change and our pain is greater than what we can handle, at this point we can plunge forward with what we desire.

So the question I leave you with, "How badly do you want change?

Life After Your Child's Diagnosis!

Diagnosis!  This is the word that everyone seems to shun, run from or it’s often the big elephant in the room!  We all know it’s there, however, no one wants to talk about it.  What will people think?  What does this mean?  What do I do now?

Just before a parent finds themselves sitting in the office of a Child Developmental Pediatrician or Child Psychologist; there are a million thoughts that run rampant within us.  As humans we tend to over analyze the process, of how we reached the point of where we are at.  We review in detail each and every event that has taken place, to bring us here at this very moment.  How many times are any of these emotions or thoughts, from the previous events, which took place positive?  It is often described as a completely chaotic journey, which seems to have no end to it.

As a parent we consume all of our energy, time and love raising our child.  The most agonizing part of the diagnosis is that a competent, licensed professional is seeing a snapshot of your child.  We the parent know our child, we know all of the beautiful qualities they possess; their strengths, abilities and most of all their exquisite soul. 

Ultimately we know that the report will be coming to us with a label.  No matter how equipped we might be to accept the label it is always a shock upon receiving it.  It is very much a loss we are suffering or a grieving process that we must undergo.  The reality is; we have received a piece of paper or a diagnostic report.  The child standing before us that we have nurtured, loved, praised and cherished is still the same child before the diagnosis.  A beautiful way to view your child’s journey is like peonies flower; each petal individually opens until a beautiful flower bursts forth.

The most important part of life after your child’s diagnosis; is putting together the resources that best meet the needs of your child.  There are a multitude of resources available; the key is to find the right fit.  It is important to discover what really works; effective techniques, tools and therapy that are a slam dunk giving your child the results that they need.  Trust in yourself, knowing that there is no one more competent, to spear head the journey of success when it comes to your child.

The journey after diagnosis is one which will have many forks in the road, or you may be faced with what may seem to be road blocks.  The list of various agencies that are often used at one time or another can be overwhelming.  Dealing with school officials can also be tremendous, and often result in the feeling of being beaten down or crushed.  Having said this you are not alone, it is completely possible to have a team of individuals working with your child.  Continue to advocate with strength knowing that you will most likely not be popular, however, you will find yourself winning the journey of success.

Each human has a dharma or destiny to fulfill. At times what seems hurtful, or the hardest challenge, often results in the ultimate blessing.  Allow yourself the ability to steer forward leading the way for your child; know that your magnificent, beautiful child will fulfill their own destiny successfully.

There is a life after diagnosis.

How it all Began!

About 6 years ago we sent our beautiful child to preschool.  At the time we knew that there were speech delays and high levels of anxiety, however, as a parent and even more so as a Mother you continually look at your child with adoration, love and see their magnificence.

What I did not realize was the journey I had begun was one which would be emotionally, physically and financially taxing.  The only way for me to describe this journey was like being on a raft in the middle of a raging river travelling about 500 km per hour!

We were told by the preschool our child was at, that these challenges were a possible problem (I am in no way discrediting the preschool).  We received feedback that we needed to consider a Psychological Assessment, Speech Therapy and ABA or IBI.

The word Autism, ADHD, Aspergers, Learning Disability and the list goes on; these labels are freely used by many people.  As the parent you know your child best, you see them through a filter of love, you also see all aspects of them.  I heard the label Autism many times by many people over the past 6 years.  We began the whole process of therapy.  Along the way we met many loving caring people who were genuine.  We also met many people who knew that we had a weak spot and used the situation to their advantage.

After exhausting a large sum of money, time, energy and let’s not forget the toll on my physical health, I decided to take charge.  I knew that my child; was creative, happy, and had a sense of humour, however, needed help.  I realized we needed to get to the root of the problem!  We needed to find tangible techniques and therapy that really worked.

It’s unbelievable the strength you have when you decide to make something happen.  It came to me that for whatever reason the universe had allowed this journey to come to me.  I knew that this was necessary not only to help my child, on the other hand, also to lead the way for others in this situation.

My first course of action was to forgive myself and clear the negative emotions of what if… What if I took more vitamins?  What if I had taken those omega fatty acids?  What if I read more to my child instead of mopping the floors?  What if I….  The list goes on with the What if’s.

Once I cleared these negative emotions, in a sense forgave myself, I knew I could repair my emotional health.  I knew that advocating was going to be a difficult journey; I was in a way embarking on a huge war.  In spite of this, I knew that there was no one more competent and knowledgeable when it came to my child.

There have been many ups and downs, tears shed, anger and frustration.  During the whole process, I continued to keep my focus on the end result.  In these last 6 years, my son has exceeded and surpassed everything we were told that he would not be able to do.  I continue to advocate for him, knowing that I am the best person to do this.  I can say that I have not won the popularity contest, but we are at the forefront of the journey.

My words of empowerment are given with love.  When faced with this situation, know that you can advocate, there are alternative techniques and therapies.  Don’t be afraid to seek out other resources.  Don’t be afraid to advocate and ask questions no matter who it is you are speaking to, no matter what their credentials are.

To your success and empowerment!

Teresa Scaini

Anchor Your Success
www.anchoryoursuccess.com